Feeling Stuck? Recognize Your Transformation Phase

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6 responses to “Feeling Stuck? Recognize Your Transformation Phase”

1. 

   Lokesh

   November 24, 2025

   Hi Neha!

   1. “Sometimes life feels painfully slow, like you’re walking through thick fog while everyone else is running ahead with clear skies and perfect paths.”
   It feels so when most of our attention is invested “outside”, and our self esteem becomes low.
   Overcrowded population is a normal thing in India. Everyone wants to make things happen as fast as possible so either they can rest next or shift to another task.

   2. “You look around and it feels like everyone is moving, everyone is building something, everyone is finding their place… and you’re just here, trying to make sense of days that blend into each other.”
   You are a human too. Therefore you recognise yourself as one of them.
   They have similar facial and body features as yours. They wear similar clothes. One of them may introduce you to your younger self or the future you.

   It’s okay to feel overwhelmed and confused on our own, sometimes. That means we’re on our own way to find or achieve something (achievement drive). You PAUSE and reflect, clarify your thoughts, arrange them and move ahead.

   3. “It’s confusing, it’s frustrating, and honestly, it’s heartbreaking in a very human way.”
   It can be heartbreaking when your heart is attached to a particular aspect of you. What you are searching is relevant to your future or near future. The present you has a strong attachment with the past you.
   To come into motion you need to maintain the momentum. Anything of excess, should released or load down.

   It’s understandable that life can be confusing. When neglected for long it can be frustrated.
   But when you are receiving heartbreaks in moments and hours and days, that tells how soft and weak your heart is.

   4. “Especially when the people you thought would stay, friends, partners, your closest circle, start drifting away without explanation.”
   It is so annoying when the closest people leave you without explanation. Mujhe hi dekho January se bas roye jaa rha tha daily. Ab jaakr sambhala hun.
   Log explanations nhi denge humesha. You need to get your answers on your own. Are you identifying yourself with them? Are you not enough without them?
   Were you so dependent on them?

   Allow new people in your life— family me, relations me, workplace par aur yahaan online space me. Understood? (Haan ya na)
   Jo log tumhari life me kabhi the aur tum unse connected ho toh woh aaj bhi tumhaare liye important hain. Unki achhi qualities se sikho, unhe accept kr lo. Aur jo unki shortcomings woh tum apni life me nhi repeat karogi kisi ke saath — yeh promise tum apne aap se aaj kr lo.

   5. “One day they’re laughing with you, the next day it feels like you’re watching them from a distance.”
   Kuchh chijen durr se dekhkar hi achhi lagti hai. Achhi lage toh unhe mann bhar kr dekh lo ya firr puri tarah ignore karo.
   Accept it, they don’t form your present life.

   Aisa bhi hoga ki log tumge puri tarah nhi chhodenge bas durr chale jaayenge. Aisa toh aksar hota hai!
   Jab woh tumse durr jaa rhe hain kya tum tab bhi wait krogi unka, utna hi, utni der ke liye?

   6. “And that loneliness hits different.”
   Loneliness is a truth of our time whether we accept or not.
   Try socialising!
   Agar tumhara sense of self high hai, aur sustainable hai, tab tum aur better krne ki koshish krogi.
   Nhi toh logon ke bich, friendship ke liye basic understanding hi kaafi hai. Har koi intellectual nhi hota hai.

   When your sense of self is hollow from inside, you feel lonely, weak and desparate (to come to a stop, your home).
   I had this feeling months ago. Aur aa jaati hai kabhi kabhi ki main itna ajeeb kyunn hun ki everyone runs away from me.

   7. “It makes you question your worth, your timing, your entire journey. You start wondering, “Why is this happening to me?” and “What am I doing wrong?”

   Trust me EXTERNAL approval doesn’t last long. Tumhe apne par bahut si chijen krni hogi jo tumhe pasand hai, tabhi life jeene ka majaaa hai.
   When I’m moody, I keep doing anything to everything. I really don’t care what others think or assume or expect. Who cares!!

   Still I think traditional relationships are reliable. They demand more investment and efforts. But they’re totally worth it.

   You have remained brave throughout your life. You don’t realise it but you are brave; you have acted that way. Just change the face value and “degree” of how you see things!
   You maintain your self-worth. No need to question it!
   You don’t need defining the reason of your existence. A blogger wrote a poem on this title, recently: take something ‘AS IT IS’; no more no less.

   8. “But here’s the truth you need to hold onto with both hands: it’s okay if things aren’t okay right now.”
   Yupp!☺️

   9. “You’re allowed to feel lost. You’re allowed to feel behind. You’re allowed to feel like life is not matching the version of your plans you created in your head.”
   Haan!! Aisa hoga. Aisa hota hai.

   Abhi kuchh 1-2 months pahle ek dost ki job lag gyi. Toh I was largely happy for him, but halki-si jealousy hui ki —“mera kyunn nhi, kahin, kuchh ho rha?”, aur “sabka ho rha hai bas mera nhi ho rha kuchh”.
   But then I corrected myself. I congratulated him properly as we share same desk during Class 12. We had a common common room at the hostel.

   I even went attending his cousin brother’s marriage once. He’ll be marrying too in near future.

   Life ke plans alag hi hote hain!! Iss chij ko jitni jaldi samajh liya jaaye utni jaldi achha.
   Bahut kuchh hai jo humaare haath me nhi hota hai.

   10. “Feeling this way doesn’t mean you’re failing; it means you’re human, trying, growing, and shifting in ways even you can’t see yet.”
   Haan. Bilkul! 👍🏼

   11. “Psychology tells us that a lot of personal growth doesn’t look like fireworks, it looks like silence, fatigue, confusion, and emotional heaviness.”
   Ok!!
   It does happen. However all these signs looks like things are not going well with you. A PAUSE and self introspection are needed.

   12. “But spiritually? That’s the exact moment God starts working on you behind the scenes. When it seems like nothing is happening, everything is actually happening.”
   Faith is God is generally good.
   But it’s easy and PRACTICAL to evaluate ourselves when we measure the things progressive in the right direction.
   God helps them who help themselves. Hardwork has a bigger role than luck, in most cases.

   13. “This might just be your transformation phase, where God, or the universe, whatever your heart believes in, is gently pulling you out of old patterns, old friendships, old versions of yourself that can’t walk with you into your next chapter.”
   This is welcoming!🤗 This is good.
   I’m gonna write ✍🏼 the next chapter of my life book.

   14. “He’s not punishing you; He’s preparing you. Think of it like this: you’re being molded slowly, quietly, into your best self.”
   This should be the vision, will and basic understanding.

   15. “The challenges you’re facing right now aren’t signs of rejection, they’re signs of redirection. You’re being pushed, stretched, tested, and shaped into someone who can hold the blessings coming your way without breaking.”
   This point and above two speaks to me directly. I can relate here. Our thinking matches here.

   16. “And honestly, our generation feels everything twice as intensely. We’re a generation that tries so hard to look fine while carrying storms inside our chests. ”
   I agree.🙂

   17. “We’re battling overthinking, loneliness, burnout, comparison, emotional exhaustion, and the pressure to “figure it all out” before 30. We scroll through social media and convince ourselves that we’re behind because someone we barely know bought a house or got a promotion or got engaged.”
   I like the keywords you use. Kyunki bahut baar toh apni feelings define krne ke liye correct words hi nhi hote hain humaare paas.
   “Misunderstandings” causes more frustration.

   I’m enough aware of my following section on all social platforms. I basically limit the people whom I see and interact with.

   18. “We swallow heartbreak quietly, we show up for everyone else, and then cry alone at night feeling like no one shows up for us. We crave connection but also fear vulnerability.”
   This thing was happening in my case.
   When I developed depression and anxiety symptoms I discussed about this to my online friend. In fact the introduced me to the vast field of mental health problems, and their solutions.

   Lack of understanding from the family side only pushes us towards toxic friendships/relationships.
   They are some particular incidents which TRIGGER you and you demand immediate support and care. But these non-tradtional connections have some limitations; they actually make you feel more vulnerable (now you start suffering on two levels — the problem, the problem of problem).

   19. “We want success but also fear failure. We want love but also fear being misunderstood or abandoned again.”
   Darr se kon hi azaad ho paaya hai aaj tak.
   Either you care about your job or your family or friendships, FEAR FOLLOWS them.
   The uncertainty and “insecurity” hit you often.

   A significant failure can break 💔 a person BADLY, internally, who was performing at the peak of his intellectual and professional career.
   When you lose on “your goals of life” which you were pursuing for years, they transformed into a very suspicious person facing severe EXISTENTIAL CRISIS.

   The self-esteem connected to a particular job type breaks in your mind, causing you emotional pain, when you do not come true on “the qualifications” demanded, by the recruiters.
   Luck has a small role too, not much.

   20. “But here’s something soft and important to remember: you are not stuck, you are becoming. And becoming is not always pretty. Becoming sometimes looks like losing people you thought were forever.”
   Haan, yaar…I get dreams about some specific people from my past life. And I do try contacting them, to inform them about this.
   It’s just Attachment, and some unexpressed emotions.

   Log issi psychological incident ko bhoot vgrh samajh lete hain. Yeh mind ka apna ek confusion hai ya processing ka tarika hai.

   Log toh aate jaate rahte hain. Most of them aren’t permanent.
   Though I’m looking for people on whom I can rely in the tough situations. I’m ready to do the same for them.

   But, if you keep walking, you may always find yourself in new places, among new people, with new thoughts and ideas.
   It’s a sort of self reliance or independence whatever you call it.

   21. “Becoming sometimes looks like crying on your bathroom floor. Becoming sometimes looks like being confused for months.”
   Hota hai, aisa hota hai.
   Jab kuchh bura hota hai toh bahut jorr ka rona aata hai. Aur ro lo toh mann halka ho jaata hai.

   Hafte me ek baar rone ka session jarur krna chahiye.😂😂 (aur 2 baar, kabhi kabhi)

   Kitni ajeeb fantasy hai yeh meri ki koi bahut jorr se roye, aur main jaakr ussko chup kraaun. I’m like — main hun toh, kuchh nhi huaa; chinti thi marr gyi.🤣🤣🤭

   22. “Becoming sometimes looks like starting from scratch when you swore you were done starting over. But in the long run, becoming turns you into someone you’re proud of.”
   Yeah. I did that multiple times.
   I had restarted my UPSC Preparation, immediately after returning from the university. And after the suicide attempt, I switched to the UGC NET quickly — attending it seriously.
   As a result I qualified NET. Since then I STOPPED feeling worthless.

   As you know I restarted a new blog many times. Scratch se work krne me main kabhi nhi darrta. Because I’m a fundamentalist by nature! (Haan Advancement ki bahut jarurat hai).

   I’m still waiting for the when I’ll be truly PROUD of myself. It will come from discipline, perseverance, patience and especially “the goodwill”.😃✌🏼

   23. “And you will get there.
   You will find your people.
   You will heal from what weakened you.
   You will receive what you prayed for.
   Your timing is not off, it’s just different.”

   I wanted to hear that. And I want to say the same to you:
   You will get there.
   You will find your people.
   You will heal from what weakened you.
   You will receive what you prayed for.
   Your timing is not off, it’s just different.

   24. “So tell yourself every day, even if your voice trembles a little: “It’s okay. I’m okay. Things won’t stay like this. Better days are coming.” Because they are.”
   Aur kya!! Better days are coming definitely.
   And I will tackle things correctly as a well determined person.

   25. “Life always balances itself out. The universe won’t leave you empty. God won’t leave you halfway. Paths open. Hearts mend. Opportunities arrive. People who are meant for you find you, always.”
   I do believe that nature has a way and style of balancing itself.

   In fact I’m very sure the progress as well as chaos caused by humans is a part of nature’s bigger plan only.

   It’ll take back what it has given to us. Progress isn’t always up and up. It is a rollercoaster ride.

   I welcome the people who see or find a friend in me, and before that a human.

   26. “So breathe. Give yourself grace. Move slowly if you have to. Cry if you need to. Rest without guilt. And remember, the story gets better from here.”

   This is the summary of life!
   It can’t be lived in a planned manner. It’s messed up like your life is messed up.

   And to take an advantage or to stand on your feet, you need to collect your energy and strength.

   27. Also these are some really encouraging positive words:
   A) The first group provides clarity:

   “This chapter is not your ending.
   This season is not your identity.
   This feeling is not your forever.”

   B) The second group of words checks the integrity:

   “You are being guided.
   You are being shaped.
   You are being aligned.”

   It looks like my comment itself is a separate post.

   But I know it’s worth writing. And I don’t feel tired after writing it.

   Keep writing, dear blogger!✍🏼

   You have a good hold over writing. The flow of your words tells the fluency and smoothness of/in your thoughts.💭

   You are someone who feel empowered on your own. Your voice is loud and clear, addressing the real issues of a personal life.

   More strength to you.👏🏼👏🏼

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   1. 

      Neha

      November 25, 2025

      Your comment really does feel like a whole article in itself, Lokesh 😅
      I could see how carefully you read every line and how honestly you connected it with your own experiences. Thank you for taking that much time, that much intention… it genuinely means a lot.

      I like how you added your own perspective, practical in some parts, emotional in others, and sometimes unexpectedly funny. It made me see my own words through a different lens, and that’s honestly beautiful.

      And I appreciate how open you were about your own journey… the confusion, the loneliness, the healing, the restarting, the little heartbreaks, the small victories. It takes courage to put that out there, even in a comment.

      Your reflections on growth, fear, timing, and friendships were relatable, and the way you echoed back those lines, “you will get there…” that was really sweet.

      Thank you for the kind words about my writing too. I’m glad something I wrote made you feel understood enough to respond with this much depth.

      Wishing you clarity, strength, and a peaceful mind as you write your next chapters🌸✨

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      1. 

         Lokesh

         November 25, 2025

         The whole point of writing this detailed comment was make you to realise and reflect on your own thoughts, feelings and life decisions.
         If it would have been a random post, the comment would haven’t exceed 30-50 words.

         Sometimes we feel “so overloaded” by too many thoughts that we struggle to prioritise them properly and process them.

         I have FAITH in you that you’ll take decisions those build you emotionally, mentally and creatively, keep you “alive” and not break you into an anxious, depressed and demotivated person.
         A person has shortcomings. They are not perfect.
         • Things become calculated, sometimes.
         • The degree of taking some risk is measured wisely, as you need to be prepared, ‘in case, you lose’.

         Psychology only gives perspective and understanding of some level. It’s you, thinking all inside your head, ‘alone’.
         Don’t get obsessed with it! Don’t get dependent on it as an idea!
         Or if you care about it too much— accept it, connect to it; celebrate it and live through it.
         Explore its hidden or less known details. Get passionate about it, to the level someone professional pursues it.

         When it comes to Psychology of mind it’s just you sitting and thinking in your comfort zone.
         People of many types, on many levels, “interferes clearly” in your life. They impact and influence you.

         • Their is a price tag to whatever you buy from food, books to clothes. Economics is active running and transforming everything. It dominates even the political leadership!
         • The society follows decades, centuries and thousands of years long “tradition, custom and culture”. Ignoring them blindly is like declaring oneself ‘a socially avoidant person’; they might start calling you “antisocial”— when you refuse to obey.

         Psychology is just a subject like any other subject. It applies to my subject also.
         Though yours has a scientific structure of your own. So it can stand up and function on its own. My subject is more like random philosophy (too complex, lack ground touch or very rigid) and political debates (based on selfish aims).

         • Time is testing you. Have a clarity about what builds you as “a mature, stable and secure person”. Have a clarity about available time. Have a clarity about your emotional needs (support, acceptance).
         Increase the resources you are having currently; so that they serve you for long.
         I must say maintain an ethical attitude. Or atleast what’s legal.
         • Don’t stop until the goal is reached!
         Now it’s a goal set by you. You can’t complain someone else choose for you.
         Make your choice. Stick to it. Pursue it, live by it.

         When we expect something better for ourselves, we need to sacrifice and invest what’s needed there.
         It isn’t easy always. It isn’t comforting.

         Overcome “your comfort zone” and get out of it.
         The multiple options looks like MCQs in the exam. But you know “only one option” is correct, everything else is just ‘a trap’.

         Not everthying is beautiful. Not everthying is fantastic. There are gaps and distances too. The time factor works always.
         Don’t let your emotions distract you! Know clearly what they are telling you.
         Overcoming the past, of any kind, isn’t easy. The people present at the present, aren’t going to serve you, in the same manner; their would “varities, in opinions, thoughts and concerns”.

         Those who are honest to you, feel connected to you, will be there for you, most of the times. But they do have “certain demands”, when you try to hear them calmly— don’t ignore that.

         I have limitations of communicating my message/s. Time is limited for me also.
         Internet gives us space, informs and shows us images, a certain way. They can be true or untrue, or may be are interrelated.
         “Normal conversations” don’t demand, these many paragraphs I’m writing here and this much ATTENTION.

         I just hope you maintain this calmness and gentleness of your personality; and this empathetic curiosity to know, hear, and awaken others. I hope you remain true to you, and not regret for such choices of yours.

         It’s me overreacting here it seems!😅

         You are wise and mature ENOUGH on your own. I need to reach there where you stand today, but I also value the things which kept me alive till this day.

         I’m NOT OBSESSED to a thought, a person or an idea. I was “a free person” always, and I live by that.

         I want to make myself enough grounded and strong that nothing can scare me. I always find comfort among genuine good people🤍💙. I feel connected to them. I can relate to them, and enjoy their company.✨

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         Neha

         November 25, 2025

         I appreciate how much thought you put into what you’re trying to say. I can see your intention behind it, and I get that you’re trying to give a broader, practical perspective so I reflect on my own choices more clearly.

         And yes, I agree… sometimes our minds get overloaded to a point where everything feels tangled. And sometimes hearing an outside voice does help in grounding things. You explained your points with honesty and a lot of self-awareness, and that’s something I genuinely respect.

         About psychology, life decisions, comfort zones, emotional clarity, I understand what you’re saying. I’m figuring things out at my own pace too, and I’m learning to stay balanced, stay aware, and stay connected to what actually builds me. And don’t worry, I’m not obsessing over anything. I’m just learning, evolving, unlearning, and shaping myself like everyone else.

         Thank you for having that kind of faith in me, for reminding me to stay grounded, and for seeing things from a protective angle. And I hope you keep growing into that stable, grounded version of yourself too, the one you’re working towards. Your reflections show that you’ve come a long way, and you’re still moving.

         And no, you’re not “overreacting.” 😅 You’re just expressive.
         It’s okay.

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         Lokesh

         November 25, 2025

         He…he…🤣🤣

         A good part of our conversations is the balance we maintain. Like sometimes we encourage the other person and other times we keep a calm and stable attitude.
         We hold eachother not too tightly but neither too lose! (This is what I call a friendship; a genuine friendship)🤝

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         Neha

         November 25, 2025

         True, honestly… it does feel like a balanced kind of friendship 😄
         we hype each other when needed, and we also calm each other down when things get too much.
         That’s a nice space to have. 🤝✨

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