The Art of Quiet Living: Cultivating Calm

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   Lokesh

   August 13, 2025

   Hi Neha!

   You sum up this so well, “For me, peace isn’t an escape from life, it’s finding those gentle pauses within it”.
   We can’t escape from life, we can’t detach ourselves from our lives — though we say that often. The mentality of taking some peaceful pauses works.

   I have developed this tendency that I ignore most things which are not related to me, I show less interest. And I am actually aggressive towards chasing my interests — like I reading a hundreds pages long novel in 1 or 2 days, making extra efforts where I can, and forcing myself to let go of most desires and wishes – as it is not wise to chase every desire.
   I often procrastinate missing deadlines. Because I am like — I will not start this task till I get every possible detail regarding this (a perfectionist mindset, lack of clarity).

   “Writing is my therapy.” This applies to me also.
   Like I rarely plan what I am gonna write. Plans doesn’t work for me, I often go with the flow; too much instructions makes my process slow.
   Writing is interesting, to explore your thoughts and experiment with them is a joy only a writer can understand.
   A writer can see things more clearly — because they deeply connect with themselves which demands honesty, authenticity and accountability. A writer see things beyond their social image, countering and questions their own thoughts, behaviours and beliefs.

   You tell you are a conservative and introverted person.
   These features of yours actually fits to the present society.
   The conservatism is related with the traditional role of the woman. The definition of being traditional also changed with time.
   A girl calling herself conservative 30 years ago and now must have enough diffrences between them.
   Only God can save the women at present they can’t rely on anyone else. So being conservative is justified their.
   The truth is women are so insecure nowadays. The male gaze, domestic violence, a negative public image in popular cultures, their biological role to give birth to a child, and unequal representation in major aspects of life cause them insecurity, hesitance and existential crisis.

   Above mentioned things are the cause of introversion also.
   But, introversion, I see it primarily as the core feature of modern socio-political system. Most TV advertisements targets individuals.
   For example: Students — they are soft targets for many coachings and private colleges.
   Residential schools were setup to promote modern education. But they actually resulted in manner and characterless individuals who don’t care about the society anymore — not all of them are like that, those who fail to achieve anything meaningful, choose the violent route.

   We have become digital which’s incomplete without individual identities. Either as a creator or a follower people have shaped new identities, attitudes and personality features.
   The commercial and privatising tendencies of the economy actually favours highly determined, progressive and high performing youth, so youth are the most vulnerable also.
   I checked the demography data the youth (18-59) now works for the children and old age people other than themselves.

   Most suicides are indirect social pressures, though they are triggered by individual failures.
   It’s important to keep questioning how we see ourselves. Because life is precious above the rest things.
   Very criminal minded, selfish and corrupt people are live today we are certainly not on that side.
   The aim of living life should be challenging, questioning and working on these social roots, till our last breath, upto our highest will; you certainly deserve a worthwhile meaningful irrespective of ‘what you are not’ at present.

   The candles, cozy drink, hiding under the blanket, short walks, and, of course, memes, and the little featurs that tell us, we haven’t stopped living life yet.
   It’s good to know how you have learned to accept yourself and getting comfortable in your own ways.

   This is a good read, definitely!😁
   I like the people who live life freely and openly. Because I too want to live like that.

   (I told my crush about that I like all her good qualities and open nature in general. And she just blocked me! I don’t regret getting blocked, I just wish we would have heard what I wanted to say before blocking. Ha…ha…
   Contrastingly I generally don’t have much to say/speak in the long format questions of regular exams.
   My mind often push me in the unexpected, negative and vulnerable situations.)

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      Neha

      August 13, 2025

      Hey, thanks for such a thoughtful comment, you’ve really expanded on the idea in such a deep way. I relate to your point about ignoring what doesn’t matter and focusing on what’s truly important. It’s something I’ve also been trying to practice, though it’s not always easy.

      Your reading habit sounds intense in the best way, finishing a novel in a day or two shows how much you can immerse yourself when something grabs your attention. And yes, that perfectionist “I’ll start only when I know everything” mindset… I’ve been there too, and it can be both a strength and a trap.

      I agree with what you said about writing, going with the flow, letting thoughts spill out, and discovering clarity through the process. The connection between honesty and writing is so real; it forces you to see things beyond how you want to appear to the world.

      Your reflections on conservatism, introversion, and today’s society are thought-provoking. The way you linked them with the current realities women face, safety, societal expectations, and shifting definitions of “traditional”, adds a lot to the conversation. And the socio-political angle you shared about how the digital age shapes our identities is something people don’t often put into words.

      I also agree with you about indirect social pressures and the value of questioning how we see ourselves. Life really is too precious to let it be defined by failures.

      And yes, those little rituals like cozy drinks, candles, walks, and memes really are proof that we’re still living and finding joy, even in quiet ways. About your crush situation, sometimes people react from their own space, not necessarily because of us, and that’s okay.

      Really appreciate you taking the time to share all of this… it makes the discussion so much richer.

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         Lokesh

         August 13, 2025

         Have a nice day friend!

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