Honestly, if I could change something about modern society, I wouldn’t just point fingers at governments or technology or “the youth these days.” I’d start with how deeply disconnected we’ve become, from ourselves, from each other, and from what actually matters.
We live in a world that’s more connected than ever, and yet so many of us feel deeply alone. We scroll through perfectly curated lives on reels, watch others “glow up,” get that dream vacation, the abs, the relationship, the iPhone 15 Pro Max, and somehow start believing that we’re behind. That we’re not enough. That we have to catch up. So we flex, or feel ashamed that we can’t.
You know, I once heard a story that broke me: a teenage girl tried to cut her wrist because she couldn’t afford the latest iPhone. She thought maybe, just maybe, that pain would make someone listen, or that she’d finally be worthy if she just had that one thing. And that’s the heartbreaking part: the fact that a piece of tech now feels like a measure of worth. That our generation is growing up believing your value is in how “aesthetic” your Instagram feed looks, not how kind or conscious or alive you are.
If I could change one thing, I’d want us to stop measuring ourselves through screens.
We’ve turned our identities into performances. We don’t get ready for ourselves anymore, we get ready for content. Outfits are chosen for the ‘fit check’. Makeup is applied for the “get ready with me” reel. Even our heartbreaks are filtered into a “soft girl era” aesthetic. It’s not that there’s anything wrong with expression, creativity is beautiful. But I wish more of us could differentiate between performing healing and actually healing. Between looking “spiritual” with crystals and incense and actually sitting with your own shadows in silence. Because true growth isn’t pretty. It’s messy. It’s crying on your bathroom floor, it’s setting boundaries and losing people, it’s unlearning things your childhood taught you were ‘normal’.
Another thing I’d change? The way we romanticize chaos and confusion in love. We’ve somehow normalized situationships, these endless loops of mixed signals, “let’s see where this goes,” “I’m not ready for a relationship but I like you,” and ghosting followed by “hey, missed you” texts at 2 a.m. It’s not cute. It’s emotional limbo. And deep down, we know it’s not what we deserve, but we settle, because real, secure love feels boring when you’ve been conditioned to think love should feel like anxiety and obsession.
I want to live in a society where peace is the new passion. Where green flags are sexier than red ones. Where someone saying “I’m emotionally available and I respect your boundaries” makes us feel butterflies, not confusion.
Also, I’d love if we could stop tying our value to hustle. Everyone’s building a “personal brand,” grinding 24/7, and posting “no days off” like burnout is a badge of honor. When did rest become rebellion? Why is stillness something we have to earn?
Spiritually, I’d bring back being. Just being. Feeling the sun on your face without having to post it with a hashtag. Listening to a friend without thinking of how to phrase it for a story. Praying or meditating or journaling just for your own soul, not for some audience who needs to see you being ‘that girl’ or ‘high-vibrational’. I’d remind people that spirituality isn’t an aesthetic, it’s a way of living, breathing, and relating to the world with presence and grace.
And I know, it’s not all bad. Social media can be healing. Reels can be inspiring. Flexing your hard work can be motivating. But the problem is when all of it becomes a mask we can’t take off. When it turns into pressure instead of joy.
So what would I change about modern society?
I’d bring back depth.
Depth in conversations – the kind that don’t just ask “what do you do?” but “how’s your heart?”
Depth in relationships – the kind that don’t make you guess your place in someone’s life.
Depth in self-worth – the kind that isn’t shaken by trends or algorithms.
Depth in spirituality – the kind that whispers “you are already enough” even when the world tries to convince you otherwise.
I’d want a world where we look up more, from our phones, our comparisons, our curated online selves, and actually see each other.
Because at the end of the day, we’re all just trying to feel like we matter. Like we’re loved. Like we belong.
And we do.
Even without the iPhone. Even without the perfect body or the viral video.
Even when we’re healing. Even when we’re not sure.
We’re still worthy.
And if we could remember that, not just know it, but live like it, then maybe this modern world wouldn’t feel so heavy. Maybe then, it could feel like home again.
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