If I could write my own first impression for people to read, it would go something like this: “Friendly, kind, and totally approachable!” Unfortunately, my resting face often seems to have its own agenda, and it’s not reading the same script. It’s like my face decided to go with “mildly annoyed and probably plotting world domination,” which couldn’t be further from the truth. I promise, I’m not secretly judging or glaring at you—I’m just… existing.
To be honest, I think it’s a combination of things. For one, I’m shy and an introvert, so I’m not exactly the kind of person to march up to someone and strike up a conversation. It’s not that I don’t want to talk to people—I really do! I just have this tiny little hurdle called fear of awkwardness to jump over first. And by the time I figure out what to say, the moment has usually passed. So, yeah, I don’t always make the first move, and I totally understand how that might come off as me being distant or, worse, arrogant. But trust me, arrogance and I are like oil and water—we just don’t mix.
The thing is, once you actually come up and talk to me, you’ll see how wrong that initial impression is. I’m the opposite of aloof! I’ll smile warmly, listen intently, and talk politely because that’s just who I am. I genuinely love connecting with people, even though my shy nature sometimes gets in the way. I’m not one of those “fake nice” types who smile for the sake of appearances either. When I smile at you, it’s real. It’s my way of saying, “Hey, I see you, and I want to be kind.”
But, you know, life is funny. I’ve realized people sometimes misunderstand quietness for snobbishness, and it’s a misconception I’ve had to live with. It’s not like I don’t want to break the ice—it’s more like I don’t know which icebreaker is the least awkward. “Nice weather today” feels too cliché, and “What’s your favorite dinosaur?” is probably too weird (though honestly, I’d love to know). So, instead, I end up looking like I don’t care enough to approach, when in reality, I’m overthinking how to not make it awkward. Oh, the irony!
So, here’s what I want people to know about me: I may not be the loudest or most outgoing person in the room, but I am warm-hearted and approachable once you get past that resting face that might suggest otherwise. I don’t have an attitude; I have anxiety about small talk. I’m not annoyed; I’m probably just lost in thought or nervous about saying the wrong thing. And while I might not be the one to approach you first, I’m here with a warm smile, ready to listen, chat, and be as friendly as I can.
So, give me a chance. I may not be an extroverted social butterfly, but I promise I’m the kind of person who will make you feel welcome and appreciated—just as soon as you help me out with the whole “breaking the ice” thing! 😊
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